How to Overcome Negative Self-Talk

How to Overcome Negative Self-Talk

 There is a difference between a healthy, constructive self-reflection talk vs. picking yourself apart. Constant belittling is not motivational, encouraging, or helpful, this action will only wire your brain to view yourself as such. If you constantly tell yourself you are worthless, useless, and all these negative traits, your brain will eventually believe it. A pessimistic attitude will catch up to you and affect your overall well-being. Some studies show personality characteristics such as optimism or pessimism can affect your overall health and well-being. Perhaps this should help you consider how your self-talk. If you do not know how to stop the constant negativity and feel like a burden to yourself, you do not have to endure this on your own. Here at Dr. Messina & Associates, we specialize in helping patients thrive and be their best version. Whether you are here for a psychiatric evaluation or are considering therapy, we are here to help.


What is Negative Self Talking?

Negative self-talking can be a vicious cycle if you have been doing this long enough. It is imperative to recognize you are your enemy, and it is solely you the one making assumptions and creating negative thought patterns. Often, we make ourselves think situations are far worse than they are. Negative self-talking is destructive, and the worst part is that once it is in the process, you might not recognize you are doing it.

Negative self-talking is that nagging voice inside of you constantly criticizing you, telling you how to behave, how inferior you are, and even how little in life you have accomplished. Negative self-talking is debilitating, and it can interfere with your life as it can make you believe you are not enough. Taking part in this action can affect your confidence level, affect you from trying new activities, and can even drive you to anxiety or depression. It is imperative to put an end to this behavior the moment it is perceived as it can be psychologically harmful to a person. Changing your negative view to a brighter outlook of yourself will change the overall scope of your life.


What Causes Negative Self Talk?

Although negative self-talking can lead you to a place of depression, low confidence, and anxiety, negative self-talk could be caused by these psychiatric disorders. A self- detrimental mindset could be a symptom of an even greater mental health condition. For this reason, negative self-talk should not be taken lightly. Certain habits can aggravate the thinking or viewpoint of a person who sees themselves from a negative standpoint, these include:

Because of human nature, we are prone to or perhaps wired to occasional negative self-talk. The issue occurs when this is an everyday issue, and it interferes with your personal life.


Signs You Engage in Self-Detrimental Talk

Have you ever sat in the car or your room and pondered about why you constantly beat yourself down? This is a common sign of negative self-talk. There are a few signs to look out for if you think you are at risk of overdoing negative self-talking.


The negative seems to always overcast the good in a situation. It does not matter the situation and you always find yourself thinking of only the negatives and leaving the positives out of the equation.


You constantly find yourself to blame for any situation that goes wrong. Even if the situation was not directly affected by you, you somehow find a way or assume that it was because of you.


Everything is either good or bad, there is no in-between. There is no middle ground for things. If it does not go your way, then it all feels like failure.

Regardless of which “symptom” or sign you recognize of negative self-talk, the first step is recognizing. You have recognized there is an issue, and you are on track to get help.


How to Change the Way I Self Talk?

Analyze the Situation & Practice Positive Self-Talk

Paying close attention to your inner voice and criticism is a great way to start. You will need to get to the root of the problem to address it. You will have to do some homework and stop yourself mid-conversation. When you start to have negative emotions and thoughts concerning you, stop yourself and ask yourself why? Why am I feeling this way, and what has led me to think "this" about myself? You will need to pay closer attention to your thoughts and actions to reverse the damage caused by your thoughts. Once you have questioned yourself and realized the statement about yourself made previously is false, you can replace it with a positive statement of the situation.

Change your Lifestyle

A change to your lifestyle can be helpful in many aspects of your life. It can help transform you physically and mentally. You can begin by making small changes like engaging in mindful meditation for five minutes each morning. This routine can help rewire your brain and help you start your brain with a fresh mindset. You can also modify your diet and add more nutritious foods, to make you feel healthier. You can also integrate an exercise routine if you have not added one yet. Exercise is imperative for a healthy mind, and it is proven that it is helpful to decrease stress and anxiety.


Getting Help

Here at Dr. Messina and Associates, our compassionate team of professionals are qualified to help you at our Flower Mound, Texas, and Southlake, Texas, offices. Our Psychologists, Psychiatrists, and Counselors specialize in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), psychological testing, and medication management for a variety of emotional and behavioral health needs. All services are available in-person and online (telehealth). If you or a loved one are seeking help with mental health, we are here to help.

Dr. Michael Messina

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