With tight work schedules and limited time on the weekends, sometimes family time is what we crave. Maybe there is a solution to this issue, and you do not have to sacrifice date nights.
Date nights at home do not have to be boring or cheesy. Since the kids are at home, we need to wait for nighttime, this way it can be an intimate date. Otherwise, it would be family time and not a date night. Learning the difference between a date night and family time is important. It will allow you to build higher intimacy, it will be a momentary break from all stress, and it is a great form to strengthen the bond between couples.
You can do these date nights with the kids, showing them how to honor each other's love OR enjoy your alone time after they go to bed!!
Date nights provide parents with the time to bond and talk over issues that need to be discussed privately. As parents devote their attention to their children, get lost in their daily tasks, and are left with limited time, it can cause couples to drift apart. A date night should not be taken for granted as this is a form of bonding and an opportunity to keep learning about one another. With today being Valentine's Day, perhaps this is not a bad time to give your relationship a revamp and spice things up.
Parents and all couples carry outside stress in addition to the pressure of providing for their families. As moms and dads dive into their role of parents, many lose their identity—the one before parenthood. Date nights are a form of rekindling connection and connecting further. Even if your relationship is not suffering, you should not take alone time together for granted.
It is also important to remember that your relationship or marriage does not need to be falling apart to seek help. Sometimes couples need reinforcement because they do not know how to communicate, the relationship is growing cold, and they simply want to save it before it all goes sour.
This is always fun when you are both engaged and enjoy the process. You must remember to have fun with it, even if it does not come out perfectly. Before date night, discuss ideas of what dish you would like to make together. Try coming up with a creative recipe that requires several steps, this will allow both of you to engage in the activity. Typically, pasta recipes require a few steps, maybe you want to try out a lasagna, or even make a pizza together. Whatever dish you choose, does not matter as long as you both have fun and enjoy the night.
If you are feeling creative and want to try something new, this is a great option for you! If you love wine and your partner loves beer, you can always modify the date night. But you get the idea, what is important is engaging in a fun activity where you can both decompress and bond. You can always look up YouTube videos and have a guided painting night, or you can simply freestyle your work of art. Regardless of which method you choose, you will both have fun trying a new activity that is out of your comfort zone.
Time to choose a show or a movie you have been meaning to watch together! If you choose to watch a new show, this could be a new activity you can both engage in more than once a week. Make sure this is a show you only watch when you are together, make it your special series. But before you sit down to unwind, you will want to gather up both your and your partner’s favorite snacks and your favorite drink—and now you may sit back and relax. Keep in mind that if you are looking for an activity that will allow you both to talk over things, you might want to keep reading.
Do you both enjoy a delicious variety of cheeses and assortments—some wine? A cheeseboard and wine night might be something you would both love this Valentine's Day. You can both have fun while putting together the cheese board and enjoy a bonding conversation over a tasty wine. You can even mix it up and watch a movie after—or during, your choice. Either way, this is a mouthwatering way to spark up your romance and try new assortments of different cheeses from all around the world. You will both have an enjoyable time trying new flavors, which will surely create a lasting memory of this date.
This is a great option if you and your significant other are cocktail connoisseurs. Don’t worry, if you or your spouse do not consume drinks that contain alcohol you can try the mocktails! Mocktails are just as fun to make. If you do not where to start or how to set up a “mixologist” night, you can always look up cocktail kits. These kits make everything a lot easier to set up. If you enjoy taking risks and putting things together yourself, then I suggest you look up ideas on Pinterest for cocktails. Regardless of which option you choose, you will bond over conversation while putting these drinks together and have a fun night after enjoying a few.
Although date nights are helpful to revive and spark up your relationship, sometimes you need extra help. If you or your loved one needs assistance, we have a wide variety of providers, including psychologists, psychiatrists, and counselors on our team.
Here at Dr. Messina and Associates, our compassionate team of professionals are qualified to help you at our Flower Mound, Texas, and Southlake, Texas, offices. Our Psychologists, Psychiatrists, and Counselors specialize in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), psychological testing, and medication management for a variety of emotional and behavioral health needs. All services are available in-person and online (telehealth). If you or a loved one are seeking help with mental health, we are here to help.