Taking a Look at Positive Correction Parenting

Taking a Look at Positive Correction Parenting

Becoming a parent is a whole new journey that no amount of mental preparation can really set you fully up for. There are so many new challenges and circumstances you will face in this new endeavor that you can’t truly understand until you are met with them. Parenting obviously does not come with a rulebook and there is no one-size-fits-all approach to raising children, but more people who are new to the parenting world are opting to veer towards the positive correction parenting technique with their little ones. There are a lot of different parenting styles and some generally do work better than others, but most of the time you just need to go with what feels right for you and your family. Positive correction parenting primarily focuses on positive reinforcement with the child so that a more trusting and secure bond will hopefully be formed with them. There has been a lot of research that looks into the effects of positive correction parenting, and today we are going to discuss what it entails a closer look at some of the methods used in this parenting style.


What is Positive Correction Parenting?

Positive correction parenting centers around the idea of being gentler as well as more patient and explanatory to your children. You can begin implementing the techniques as early as you wish when you become a parent, and each stage of childhood development has different systems of positive correction parenting that can be integrated that are more important for that specific stage and are more and effective. Debbie Godfrey has pioneered much of the education surrounding positive parenting in recent years, and she claims that children are born good and have a fundamental desire to do the right thing. Positive correction parenting does not ignore the need for implementing discipline and consequences with your children, but it aims to create healthier and gentler practices so that both you and your child are happier and can ideally build a highly supportive relationship throughout your lifetime.


What Positive Parenting Can Encourage

With positive parenting, the goal is to create healthy communication and emotional patterns with your child. It has been found that positive parenting can encourage better listening, communication, cooperation, and emotional development with your young ones. Of course, young children are constantly trying to make sense of the world and how they feel, and there are bound to be days that are more difficult than others. Research indicates that when parents do intentionally stick to the nurturing techniques outlined in this parenting style, children generally display more positive behavior and are more emotionally aware. They are able to resolve conflicts with friends and siblings in a more productive manner and they typically develop a higher degree of self-esteem, as well.


Methods and Ideas to Use in Positive Parenting

If you have decided that you want to go the route of positive parenting, you might be wondering where in the world to start and what techniques you should implement. Luckily, there is a huge wealth of information on this topic available via books and the internet (the idea of positive parenting was initially presented to the United States in the 1920s). There are many different areas you can focus on with positive parenting, but below are a few of the most significant and effective methods you can apply:


Rephrasing is an important practice within positive correction parenting, because it concentrates on language that is less negative and harsh in nature. Instead of saying things like “don’t do that because I said so” or even something as simple as “stop,” try to rephrase your point by saying “please play nicely with each other” or “let’s find a different activity instead.” This makes all the difference with kids because they are proficient in picking up energy and tones of voice and will respond accordingly.

Active Listening

As a parent, it’s imperative that your child feels heard and respected if you want to build a positive relationship where there is mutual trust. Taking the time to listen to your child when they are really vying for your attention and to be understood will make them feel valued, and they will in turn feel much more comfortable with coming to you with various things. Active listening sets the foundation for great communication skills.

Being Attentive to Emotions

When you are attentive to both your child’s emotions and your own, this allows for a healthy expression of feelings to flourish. All too often kids are expected to disguise how they feel or to be quiet when they are upset. Instead, talk to them and try to comprehend why they are feeling the way they are (especially when they are upset, frustrated, or afraid). Children are still very much trying to figure out the world and how to regulate their emotions, and when you are open with them and showcase positive behavior and support surrounding this topic, they have a much greater chance in developing higher emotional awareness.

Being Consistent

Lastly, positive correction parenting has shown to be most effective when it is applied consistently. Positive parenting does not mean that you avoid disciplining your child or neglecting to show them the consequences to their negative actions. Rather, discipline comes with thorough communication that is clear for them and simple for them to understand why it is happening. Children need to see consistency with this, because if they realize that there are not regular patterns set in place, they will quickly learn that they can typically get away with behaving undesirably.


While positive correction parenting might not be for every family, it has certainly proven itself over the years to be an ideal way for supporting healthy communication, emotional awareness, and self-esteem. A lot of patience and intention is necessary with positive parenting – but really with parenting as a whole. Some aspects of positive parenting may resonate more with you and your family system, and as long as it feels right and it’s working for you, then there’s nothing else to worry about.


Getting Help

If you or someone you love in need of some mental health guidance, please reach out to Dr. Messina & Associates. We have a team of psychiatrists, therapists and psychologists that specialize in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and medication management for patients of all ages. Our group of compassionate and skilled professionals is available for in person appointments for patients in the DFW area. We also offer online appointments for patients in the Austin, DFW, Houston and San Antonio areas.



Dr. Michael Messina

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